• 3 Strategies to Build Self-Esteem in Children

    I wrote The Big, Bad Bully to help children and teens become aware of their thought life, stop negative self-talk in it’s tracks, and give them the tools to build positive, self-esteem building thought patterns. I did this because I had done my research on low self-esteem, and what I found scared me:
    “Low self-esteem is a thinking disorder in which an individual views him/herself as inadequate, unlovable, and/or incompetent. Once formed, this negative view permeates every thought, producing faulty assumptions and ongoing self-defeating behaviour.”1

    “Over 70% of girls age 15 to 17 avoid normal daily activities, such as attending school, when they feel bad about their looks.”2

    “Teen girls that have a negative view of themselves are 4 times more likely to take part in activities with boys that they've ended up regretting later.”3
    And it’s not just girls.
    “38% of boys in middle school and high school reported using protein supplements and nearly 6% admitted to experimenting with steroids.”4
    We ourselves, as adults, know the repercussions for low self-self-esteem and intentionally work to build self-esteem in our children. Sifting through different strategies can be confusing, but my co-author, Jack Canfield has summed it up quite nicely:

    “Self-worth and self-esteem comes from believing that you are capable and loveable.”

    So how do we help our kids and teens build their self-esteem? 

    The most effective methods provide evidence to your children that they are loved, and that they are capable. They bring a child’s successes and support network into focus.If you were able to catch my interview on The Morning Show, I shared three simple things from The Big, Bad Bully and Jack’s teaching that will help build self-esteem in kids and teens: 
    1. The Mirror Exercise. Every night for 40 nights to build the habit and change thought patterns. 
    Say your name.
    Appreciate yourself by acknowledging what you did that day out loud.
    Say “I love you!” to yourself.
    Take it in by taking a deep breath.

    Get a free printable version that you can tape to your mirror HERE.
    Get the full instructions on how to do The Mirror Exercise HERE.

    2. Put two photographs in your child’s room. One of them doing something they are good at (like a sport or interest) and a second one of the family from a happy memory. It could be a vacation you had, or a birthday. Having a daily visual reminder of these two things reminds children of their accomplishments (they are capable) and happy memories (they are loveable). 

    3. Model it for your kids. If they see and hear you criticizing yourself, or speaking negatively about yourself, they will unconsciously pick that up themselves. On the flip side, they will also pick up on a positive outlook, as well. Why not try The Mirror Exercise together with your children and see the results for you both!
    Let me know what methods you use to build self-esteem for your children and for yourself! I would love to hear from you. 

    Hugs,
     
    Miriam

    P.S. To get in touch with me, reach out through my contact page!
  • Picture Book Template

    I have the great pleasure of working with some up and coming authors and speaking to students who are learning to write and I have realized two things:

    1) students are REALLY interested in the writing process, and

    2) I am REALLY passionate about sharing what I have learned with both students and aspiring authors. 

    I know the ins and out of editing a book before it is sent to the printers, and so…. I made an editing tool to help students (and writers) prepare their picture book manuscript for an editor or illustrator. This template is easy to use, and when you have finished copying your story into it, you can print it off and staple it together to get a real feel for what your book might look like!

    Whether you are considering writing your own children’s book, or are encouraging writing in your students or family, this is the perfect editing tool for your manuscript.

    Did you know 32 pages is the standard for children's books? Or that almost all children’s picture books are under 1000 words? If you check the books on your shelf, you will see for yourself!

    The word count has to do with how much is appropriate for different ages, but the number of pages is a logistical thing. It has to do with how the paper comes off a printing press before it is bound into a book. The cheapest and most efficient way is to make it 32 pages long, so that is the standard for the industry. 

    And so…. I present my 32 Page Picture Book Template. It has space for your story AND some insider knowledge for navigating the publishing world.

    Below is an overview of how the 32 pages is laid out. (It's included in the template, as well.) You can see that the first three pages are taken up by the Title Page, The Copyright Page, and the Dedication Page. That leaves 29 pages for an author's manuscript to spread across. 

    I am a visual person. When I wrote my first book I made a low-tech, stapled together, bunch of papers (32 in total). Then I printed off my manuscript and cut out the sections of text that I thought would do well on each page, and I glued them in. Very technology advanced…. I know. 

    While this may be a very simple thing, it was so necessary! I NEED to see something and hold it in my hands to get a feel for what it will look like. This “hardcopy” helped me edit my draft. It helped me make sure each page was a “page turner,” and had a flow that kept the reader engaged.

    When I wrote my first children’s book, I had NO IDEA of these printing norms. All I had was an idea, that I thought could be great, and a deep desire to make a difference. I hope this tool can help make the whole process easier for you. 

    Feel free to download my Picture Book Template and use it to educate your students and kids OR edit your own manuscript. 

    Did you know that I coach aspiring authors and publish children's books? If you have a children's book you want to publish, consider submitting your idea for consideration.

  • Lifeology Interview Miriam Laundry

    James Miller | Lifeology interviews Miriam Laundry. February 6, 2020

    James Miller | Lifeology interviews Miriam Laundry. February 6, 2020

    James Miller is a licensed psychotherapist and the executive producer and host of the nationally broadcasted and syndicated radio show James Miller Lifeology. James has been in the mental health field for over 22 years. After 13 years in private practice, James left his thriving practice in the Washington, DC area and created James Miller Lifeology, where he globally helps people simplify and transform their spirit, mind, and body.

    Listen Now!

    I am very excited to have been invited to by James Miller for an interview! It's is wonderful to get a chance to chat with a fellow professional who is making such a difference in the world.

    James always has wonderful guests on Lifeology, and brings such a fresh insight with some solid info on mental health and self-care. Take a minute to listen in on our talk about The Big, Bad Bully, getting started as an author, and making a difference by reforming that inner-critic into an inner coach!

     

    One of my passions is to mentor fellow children's book authors and help them go from having a great idea for a book to having a a published book in their hands. You can find out about how to submit your idea or manuscript for consideration here: Publish Your Book

    The Big, Bad Bully is a bully story with a twist.”

    Follow a young girl who struggles throughout grade school with a bully. Every day she hears her flaws pointed out. Finally, she decides to stand up to her tormentor and discovers…. it is herself! This is not a book about the bully sitting beside you in class, but the bully living in your head.