“I don’t want to have kids.”
I was shocked. Motherhood is one of the most rewarding parts of my life. Why would my daughter say that she didn’t want any children?
I’ve always been involved in my children’s lives -- I volunteered at their schools, helped manage their sports, and took an interest in their hobbies. For a long time, I maintained a steady balance between being a full-time mother and a part-time entrepreneur.
I knew that, as a Mom, I needed to be around for them more than I needed to run my own business.
When my daughter told me she didn’t want to have any children of her own, I was on a year-long sabbatical. I had put my business on pause and was reevaluating my priorities, wondering if I should leave my business behind and focus solely on my children.
“Why?” I asked.
“Because,” she said, “you have to give up on your dreams.”
“What makes you say that?” I didn’t understand. And then she said this...
“Isn’t that what you’re doing?”
Then, everything fell into perspective. I realized that, all along, I’d been holding onto a limiting belief. I was approaching my career with the mentality that I can’t be a good mom and a successful businesswoman at the same time -- it was one or the other.
And my daughter started adopting this limiting belief, too.
From that moment on, I knew I had to make a change. I had to start believing in myself. I had to start thinking, I CAN be a great mom and a successful businesswoman.
Now, I don’t just run my business in addition to being a mother. I run my business because I am a mother.
My children are not my excuse to stop showing up. They are my reason to show up.
I want to show my children that you can be successful and have a family.
And that’s what drives me. I want to see my children let go of their limiting beliefs. I want to see them become people who go for their dreams.
Running a business doesn’t take me away from my children anymore. Now, it brings me even closer to them.