Have you ever heard someone say something really mean about themselves?
“I’m SUCH an idiot! I should have known…”
“I’m so stupid!”
“I can never do anything right.”
It may come as an off-hand comment, but it is really symptomatic of a much deeper issue: a vicious inner critic.
How much worse is it when we hear the children in our life being hard on themselves like this?
There’s never been a time where having a strong mental outlook has been so vital for kids and teens.
This year’s stress has been one for the books. Masks, changes in routine, missing friends and family, anxiety about the virus, changes in school, uncertainty for the future; these are just a few pressures that kids wrestle with on a daily basis.
We want our children to be ok - to be better than ok - we want to set them up for success.
Last year I released a children’s book with Jack Canfield: The Big, Bad Bully.
(I say children’s book, but really it’s perfect for kids in middle school and all the way up to adults - we need the reminder, too!)
The Big, Bad Bully is a bully story… with a twist.
Follow a young girl who struggles throughout grade school with a bully. Every day she hears her flaws pointed out. Finally, she decides to stand up to her tormentor and discovers…. it’s herself!
This is not a book about the bully that stalks you on social media, but the bully living in your head.
The best part about this book is the awareness it brings about self-talk. I love hearing the gasps when I read it to a group of kids. They just don’t see the twist coming.
This is some feedback a got from a middle school reading:
“Even though I knew what was going to happen, the story gave me chills. I teach my students to value and appreciate themselves but I often forget that I need to take care of myself too. I love the story and am planning on using the message with my students. Grade 6 students are so hard on themselves and need to be reminded how awesome and unique they truly are!”
- Erin Taubeneck , Grade 6 Teacher
“I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders… I feel like I'm not the only (one) who hears that voice and listens to it. It was unique and different. I loved everything about this book.”
- Ashley, Grade 8
It’s easy to feel helpless when you see your children struggling. I want to remind you that you have the power to make a difference and help.
The Big, Bad Bully is specifically designed to help kids think about their thought life, to first become aware of the fact that they can control how they treat themselves. The book comes with an engaging and beautifully illustrated story, and is packed with self-esteem building exercises.
Yes, it may feel like our world has turned upside down, but we are not helpless. We can make a difference in our own mental health and in our children’s. We can start with a good book and a conversation.
Add The Big, Bad Bully to your library today!