You and I both know how important it is to develop self-esteem for our children and ourselves. So what it there was an easy self esteem activity you could do with your kids to build their self esteem? I present The Mirror Exercise!
What professionals have to say about building self esteem:
A REAL sense of self esteem doesn’t come from just any old feel-good praise you receive. You have to feel you truly deserve the praise. When you look back at things you have accomplished and take time to recognize them, it fuels your confidence.
That means that self-esteem comes directly from recognizing past successes. We can’t control whether others recognize us for our victories, so the question is, are YOU recognizing your successes? Or have you let them slide into obscurity?
The truth is it’s easy to forget past victories in the face of obstacles you are currently struggling with. To overcome this natural tendency, challenge yourself, and your kids, with this self esteem activity: The Mirror Exercise. Can you do it every night for 40 nights?
The Mirror Exercise
Every night, before going to bed, stand in front of a mirror and appreciate yourself for all that you accomplished during the day. Look deep into your eyes and hold for a few seconds. Maintain eye contact with yourself throughout the exercise.
1. Say your name.
2. Appreciate yourself by acknowledging what you did that day and say them out loud:
- Accomplishments and Successes. “Today I got a good mark on a test”
- Risks Taken. “I introduced myself to the new student in class,” or “I stood up for a kid being bullied”
- Disciplines Kept. “I did my homework,” or “I went for a morning run.”
- Temptations Resisted. “I didn’t lash out when I was angry,” or “I only ate ONE cupcake instead of …”
3. Say “I love you!” to yourself.
4. Take it in by taking a deep breath.
Buy the Book
The Big, Bad Bully teaches us that the most dangerous bully isn't lurking around the corner, but living in our heads.
Follow a young girl who is bullied throughout grade school. One day she decides to stand up to her tormenter, only to discover she is the one who has been bullying herself!
The Big, Bad Bully is a great conversation starter for discussing what kind of thoughts we have towards ourselves with our children.
Six self-esteem building exercises are included in the back.